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Give Deep

December 15, 2016

I've earlier said GIve Until It Doesn't Hurt, but the next question that must be considered is: to whom?  If you turn up the dial and give more than before, where should it all go?  Should you give to more organizations or causes, or just give more money to the same ones you already support?  Naturally, the first thing is to pray and ask the LORD to lead your giving, and the next thing is to seek wise counsel.  In the spirit of living in community and learning from others who've gone before us, I'll share how my wife, Elle, and I have been giving for the last 20 years.  Generally, we have felt compelled to give deeply to organizations where we can have some sort of personal connection.  I get the sense that a lot of people get the warm fuzzies at Christmas time by giving some money to buy a cow for a family in South America or sign up to sponsor a child in Africa.  Don't get me wrong.  Those are both VERY good things to do with your money.   

BUT, that is not anything like a tithe, not for most of you reading this in America.  What is a tithe anyway?  I like to think of it like this:  it is the 10% (or more) of your incoming Time, Talent and Treasure that you DON'T take from God even though he's given it to you.  He gives it to you and you give it right back.  

If you are a typical American earning a typical household income of roughly $55,000, that means that you would leave $5,500 of that back on the table for God.  That's a lot of child sponsorships or cows and chickens for families in need.  If you have an income more like $100,000, it's obviously $10,000, and so on.  So where should you give that money?   

I suggest you pray, and talk to friends and then put most of it into 2 or 3 ministries or missions that God puts on your heart.  Invest in those ministries with your Treasure AND your Time and Talents too if at all possible.  Give Deep.  For us, first off, we give 50% of our tithe to the local church.  That is a very important place to start.  It just happens that we live in a wealthy part of the wealthiest country on the planet, so running a church here is expensive.  We give our Time, Treasure and Talent to help our church thrive.  But we are also fortunate enough to have even more to give, so we give it to Dixie.  

A year or so after our daughter was born, my wife and I began seriously considering adoption, and after a good deal of research on different regions of the world, we felt a pull and interest in Haiti.  Through additional research, my wife learned of Dixie Bickel, the founder of God's Littlest Angels (GLA), an orphanage in Haiti, and through an awesome set of circumstances, we had the honor of hosting Dixie and her amazing husband, John, in the humble little chicken coop we called home in 2007.  We were honored to hear their story in person at our dinner table, and a few months later we had the opportunity to visit the orphanage in Haiti.  That began a personal connection for my wife and I with the people and the country of Haiti.  Our first gift was to pay for the college education of a young neighbor of GLA that we met while we were visiting.  We figured that until we adopted a child, we could at least adopt this young man by helping him get an education.  Within a few years he was finished with his college and it was clear we were not going to adopt any children.  So we shifted our giving to sponsor students in the area around the orphanage who are with their families but can't afford to go to school.  There are not government sponsored schools in Haiti.  Every school is private, so we are helping Haitians to get an education in the hopes that a more educated Haiti will contribute to a better electorate and economy in the long term. 

We have been sponsoring kids' educations in Haiti for 8 years now and we give about 20% of our giving to them.  Another 20% of our giving goes to a Love Does school that Bob Goff started in Uganda.  We met Bob Goff and the Love Does Crew at a conference in 2012.  With 50% going to our church, the remaining 10% of our giving goes to the little things that come up here and there: education, radio stations, arts, and other ministries.  We like to say yes when asked for help on little things.  

So, our approach has always been to focus the bulk of our giving on just 2 or 3 main ministries with which we were closely familiar.  I encourage you to find your 2 or 3 and go deep with them.  Commit a serious amount of your giving and make it a lasting commitment for at least several years.  There is a time and place for changing your giving patterns, so when you are going deep with your giving, you need to communicate that to the recipient of your giving, because they'll be depending on you, and they'll need time to replace your giving.  

Our goal has been to give at least 10% of our total income before taxes, and while that was tough in the early years, it's become easier and easier.  Last year we gave more than 10%, so now my goal is to increase our total giving as a percentage of income every year.  The more we make, the more we can afford to give right?  So why not give 20%?  Give deep until it doesn't hurt!

Who are your favorite ministries and missions?  In addition to our core ministries, we are also big fans and supporters of: 

Carden Country School - an amazing school here on Bainbridge Island.

Pacific Northwest Ballet - the fantastic ballet company in Seattle.  

KNHC 89.5 Dance Music Radio station run by students at a public high school in Seattle.

First Aid Arts - an amazing program using art therapy with people who've suffered horrific circumstances.

American Heritage Girls - an awesome program for girls

And many others.  What are your favorite organizations to support?

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Give Until It Doesn't Hurt

August 18, 2016

When I was in college, I went to Argentina on a mission trip.  While I was down there an awesome missionary named Dan Ryder (who taught me many great lessons which I'll share in other posts) taught me a saying, "give until it hurts".  I'm sure he didn't come up with it, but he introduced it to me, so he get's the credit as far as I'm concerned.    

What did he mean by it?  Well the way he explained it is that if we are giving out of our comfort, it's not really giving, because we're not giving up anything.  Jesus explains this in the example of the Widow's Mite in Luke 21:1-4.  

“21:1 And [Jesus] looked up and saw the rich putting their gifts into the treasury. 2 And He saw a poor widow putting in two small copper coins. 3 And He said, “Truly I say to you, this poor widow put in more than all of them; 4 for they all out of their surplus put into the offering; but she out of her poverty put in all that she had to live on.”
— Luke 21:1-4, NASB from BibleGateway.com

Giving till it hurts means giving until you notice the difference.  The next spring after the mission trip to Argentina, I was in New York City on a trip to expose us to urban missions to disadvantaged youth, the homeless and the addicted.  One rainy night in Manhattan, we went out to bring food to those on the streets and were instructed to sit down and get to know some of these folks we aimed to serve.  I talked to a guy who'd lost his job, his wife, his home, and his dignity.  When I asked him what I could do for him, he said he just wanted some socks because it was so cold and damp.  A quick look at his feet suggested that my socks would probably fit him, so I took off my shoes and socks, gave him my socks and put my shoes back on.  I was a poor college student working my way through college on a scholarship, but I still had more socks back in my suitcase.  Frankly, that didn't hurt much, but I did notice the difference because for the rest of the evening, my feet were freezing.  And most importantly, I was learning to exercise my GIVE muscle.  

Since then, I've striven to give as much as possible and there have been many conversations in which my wife and I have struggled to understand why so and so seems to have more money to spend on such and such.  Then we look at our giving and realize that we could have had a bigger house, nicer car, fancier vacations or whatever, if we had given less.  

So, we give and it hurts.  Or does it?  

Back when we first got married and we wanted to buy a house so badly, it was tough to give up 10% of our income, and we didn't always succeed.  Later, when we got into the pile of debt that inspired my book, Pillows For Your Prison Cell, it was really tough to give because it slowed down our process of getting out of our prison cell.  But we gave, and we gave, and over time we learned that it was better to give and trust our heavenly father than to keep the money for our own plan.  God's math is not our math.  His economy is not our economy.  His promise in Malachi 4:10 demonstrates how he thinks about this. 

“4:10 ‘Bring the whole tithe into the storehouse, that there may be food in my house. Test me in this,’ says the Lord Almighty, ‘and see if I will not throw open the floodgates of heaven and pour out so much blessing that there will not be room enough to store it.’”
— Malachi 4:10, NIV from BibleGateway.com

If this is God's promise, then how can it hurt to give?  In fact, the more I give, the less it hurts.  It only hurts if I think it's mine and by giving zealously for the last 20+ years, God has taught me that it ISN'T mine.  In fact, I'm not really giving anything.  I'm taking.  So I gave until it didn't hurt and now my goal is to take less.  

Let me draw a picture for you.  In the next 12 months, God is going to put a pile of resources on the table in front of you: Time, Talents (knowledge, skills, abilities) and Treasure (money).  How much of that are you going to take and use for yourself, and how much of that are you going to leave on the table to do His work?  Here's the cool thing:  It's all yours!  He gave it to you, so you get to decide how to use it.  You can invest in your local church, in a school in Haiti, an urban mission, or whatever He has put on your heart.  What you do with it is up to you.  So whether you have a little talent and a lot of money or a bit of time and some talent too, whatever you have, He gave it to you because He knows you'll put it to good use.  

Tell me how you like to leverage your time, talent and treasure with the ministries that the Lord has put on your heart.  In addition to our local church, my wife and I are currently investing in: 

Love Does - So far, all we've been able to do is give money to sponsor kids to go to school in war torn and impoverished parts of Africa and Asia.  Some day soon we'd like to visit these schools and invest in the kids directly.  

God's Littlest Angels - We had the good fortune of connecting with the founders of GLA and hosted them in our home while they were in Seattle to raise money at Microsoft (my former employer).  We then got to visit GLA in Petionville, Haiti and spend hours and hours holding babies (which is a huge blessing to a little baby in their first years and I can say that giving did not hurt one bit).  Now we are sponsoring children to go to school in Haiti where school is NOT free.  

And of course, No More Pillows the ministry I created to host fun and provocative weekend retreats for youth.  (Shameless plug...)

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